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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I personally find such a rule to be invasive, overly controlling, and not something I would ever be likely to implement. However, both my kids and I realize that different families do things differently and that it is incumbent upon a guest to abide by household expectations so invitations should only be accepted to people's homes where the rules they will be expected to obey are tolerable to us.

If phones were collected and kept out of the way but somewhere accessible without intervention by the host parent in case one of the guests needed to use their phone, such as it seems 08:00 does, I would be fine with that. The phone would still be fairly accessible to my child should either they or I need to communicate about safety or logistical matters, and where phones are to be stored would just be a matter of the other family's rules.

If, however, phones were collected and kept by the host parent in such a way that my child would need to go through the parent to get access, I would not be alright with that. Most of the reasons for which I could see kids at a sleepover needing to contact home are rare/unlikely but definitely not the sort of situation in which I think most kids -- but definitely mine -- would be comfortable bothering or imposing on the friend's parent. If someone else has become the gatekeeper of my child's actual ability to communicate with me or receive communications from me, I would not consider the phone to be fulfilling its primary purpose (a safety feature) so I would have to evaluate whether the sleepover was one I would allow my child to attend without a functional phone. Most likely, the existence of such a household policy on the part of the host would cause me to decline to have my kids sleep over. Not to mention that I do find it strange and somewhat inappropriate for another parent to confiscate property that depending on how you look at it either belongs to my child or belongs to me and which I have given to my child to keep and use. My kids are not generally, with few exceptions, permitted to share their phones or allow anyone besides themselves to be in possession of them.[/quote]

Wow, and you're calling the phone collector controlling?I think I know where you must keep your phone.[/quote]

Yeah, I hope the phone company doesn't charge her by the word![/quote]

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