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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]We are going to be visiting my in laws for the weekend with our 4 month old.  We're going to be staying at a nearby hotel as BIL and his family will be staying with MIL/FIL but the plan was to spend our days at their house and only go back to the hotel at night to maximise time with the family.  MIL just informed DH that I am not allowed to breastfeed at her home due to our niece and nephews being there so we should bring formula for the weekend.  I'm not opposed to formula in general but I'm not willing to go 10+ hours a day without breastfeeding DD (I can't even imagine how uncomfortable I would be by the end of the day).  We're not going to cancel the trip as this will be the first time BIL and his family will get to meet DD and I'm pretty sure they don't have anything to do with this request.

MIL was a serious pain in the butt about me breastfeeding when she visited right after DD was born, including getting mad every time I had to take DD to nurse her claiming I just wanted the baby to myself, etc.  I'm still harboring some resentment over that and I'm having trouble believing this request isn't related to her previous complaints.  All of this is a long way of saying I'm not confident that I'm capable of being particularly rational or kind in my reaction to her request.  I'm really tempted to have DH just tell her we won't be coming to her house at all and will arrange to spend time with the family out and about at some parks and whatnot but this is the pettier option.  Alternately, I can pump in the morning before leaving the hotel (which would generally provide enough milk to get us through about lunchtime) and we can spend time at her house until then, leaving as soon as DD needs to nurse after we've used up the morning pumped amount and then spend the afternoons being out and about.

So what say you, DCUM - what is the best course that doesn't leave me in pain from not nursing all day, enforces a healthy boundary with MIL, while also respecting her house/her rules?  DH hasn't responded to her yet and will go along with whatever I want to do and will be the one to tell her what we decide.  [/quote]

I am so sorry.  Since your post is so detailed I have to believe that this is true.  You want to breastfeed your baby.  That is your right.  Your MIL needs to sep off.  You can feed your baby wherever and whenever your please.  Your DH needs to address this and you can breastfeed your child in a separate room if your niece and nephew can't see your boobs.  Do what is best for your and your child.  Crap, this shit makes me so made![/quote]

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