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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]^^op again... meant below average. And going back to that, isnt it so hard to hear your kid described in percentiles and numbers like that? One of the scores, DS was in the .5th percentile. I didnt even know how to respond bc Ive never heard of such a thing and Im like my kid has language delays, major motor planning issues, how can these tests even measure what he knows when he cant motor plan and use language correctly enough to process the questions/tasks? And then I get wrapped up in the why- well why cant he motor plan or use language etc?? Did I not read enough or expose him enough to sensory rich environments, was it that time he fell and had a minor concussion? Was it bc he was breach? Did I not drink enough water when pregnant and maybe that caused him to be breach which caused these problems? My mind races with all these questions and thoughts. Its all so confusing and hurts to now have to think of my DS who was my precious bundle of joy as in the .5th percentile in this or that. Ya know? Trying not to of course but coming off IEP meetings, its hard not to. Sorry for long vents!!![/quote]

OP, have you read this article "SuperBabies Don't Cry?"  
http://velamag.com/superbabies-dont-cry/

It does a good job of debunking the way that society, and women ourselves, place the blame for everything "abnormal" about our kids on something the mother did wrong. And, even more importantly I think, showing that the idea that everyone should want a "perfect" child reflects a shallow view of humanity and its diversity.

You didn't do anything wrong, you are doing great now, and your child is a precious being including his language delays and motor planning issues.

Hugs!!
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