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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]There is a whole army of women who left the workforce to raise young children and then decided to not go back to work. And not all of them are great at running the household. This sounds like your DH. Instead of playing video games there sitting in Starbucks wearing yoga pants complaining about their crappy husbands. In other words, your husband sounds perfectly average.[/quote]

I agree. I am sympathetic to the more common situation of DH whose SAH wife does little after the kids are in school. In your case, the gender reversal is uncommon, I can understand why you would *feel* resentment, but "rationally" [b]it's not that unusual to not want to do a 9 to 5 job after 11 years at home[/b]. You can keep on pushing him but at some point might have to accept he won't change. Please don't divorce over this, even if he doesn't get a job. [/quote]

Just think about how much the parent that has been working this whole time would rather not be at a 9-5 job.[/quote]

It didn't sound at ALL like the OP wants to quit her job and SAH doing all of the cleaning and childcare to her optimal level while her husband works.  
It never seems like that when men post these things either.   They want their lives to be exactly the same, to travel whenever work requires it, to stay late or go in early whenever they have additional work to do, to take vacation when it is convenient, etc.  And just somehow have their spouse work around that.

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I am sure the nanny can play video games all day long and do the minimum with the kids after school just fine.

[b]The truth is, I want to be married to an adults that act like an adult not a dependent child... man or woman[/b].

I expect more from my teenagers than OP is getting from her H.

If her H worked at least she would have some respect for him. A crappy SAH(person) is an burden.

OP will have a nanny so there is no need for anything to change.
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Exactly how I feel about SAHW who is still SAHW despite the fact kids are in HS and DO NOT NEED HER to do all the crap she claims they need....[/quote]

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