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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I'm going to play devils advocate here. I don't think him spending all of his free time with his family is insane. As someone who is not close to any siblings and is an orphan, I hope to marry a man like this. I have dated men that spend their free time on the golf course, at the bar, at the office, etc. If a man values his family and wants to spend time with them, I would respect that and would hope they welcome me. There are much worse places he could be. [/quote]

But the difference is that's what you WANT. There definitely people out there who don't have a family unit of their own but have always longed for one -- those people are the perfect fit for fiancé's family. It's not always a bad situation - you hang out with these people like 5 days a week, your kids grow up with their kids, you watch all the kids grow up together and all the adults grow old together, and while there may be squabbles, you truly end up as a family. BUT it only works when the person marrying in wants that. You're the kind of woman OP's fiancé needs. When the person marrying in - doesn't want it; resents it; thinks it's weird -- before they're even married, it will never work. Sure they may marry and be together for a long time - but OP will remain resentful for a LONG LONG time.[/quote]

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