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[quote=Anonymous]Yes, I do think what you're describing is unusual, OP.

My husband's job is demanding enough that when he simply does that and I do my job, I end up doing the majorit yof child care.  That's ok by me.

We do have a "schedule" for the week -- who is responsible for delivering the child to and from child care.  It's understood that if one of us needs to work late or see a friend or work associate, we do that on the other person's night (although it happens extremely rarely).  As far as weekends are concerned, it is assumed that we are both spending time with each other and our child the entire day unless there is something else that needs to happen, or VERY rarely something by "choice" -- dinner with a friend or something.  I cannot imagine both us having several hours during the day to ourselves each weekend day as a rule --- largely because it is more important to me that we all spend time as a family together than getting personal time.

It sounds like biking is very important to your husband.  Is it possible for him to take a bike ride on weekend day with your child? My husband will someitmes take my son for a run which gives us both an hour or so of "solo" time.

I do agree that counseling may be needed.  It sounds like you both view child care as a burden and may value time to yourselves too much at this phase in your life.[/quote]

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