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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Did you talk about how many kids you wanted before you got married?  Do you work?  If you don't work, I feel like it's understandable for him not to want the financial pressure of having to make more or keep job to support more kids and a bigger family.  If you do work, like I do with 3 kids, I think it is also understandable for him to think two working parents with 3 kids is hard and crazy at times and that he doesn't want more.

But I have no idea what you thought going into the marriage, like if you were expecting to have more kids.[/quote]

Well here's the thing. We wanted to have two. Then we had a slip up with birth control with #3. I actually brought up the idea of terminating because I was initially so sick and freaked out but he was adamantly opposed. Of course we love and adore our #3 and it scares me to even think about the fact that we might not have had her in our lives. Because of this experience, I know that we would feel the same way about a 4th.

I don't work but he does pretty well and we can afford it. It's not a financial thing with him. He's just over the baby stage. But since I SAH and will be doing most of the work anyway...[/quote]

Holy crap!!!!!!  Please get therapy.  You are at a crossroads in your life.  You're about to be out of a job in a way.  Huge transition.  Address the real issue that is going on here.  What are you going to do all day with all your free time.  [/quote]

NP. So every woman who wants to have four kids needs therapy? Come on. I don't see anything unusual about her posts. Seems pretty common for late thirties SAHMs in my experience. [/quote]

No, every woman who wants to have four kids to keep the SAHM dream alive and plausible when they're DH doesn't support this plan needs therapy.   [/quote]

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