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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][b]I think there is some jealous there.[/b] In the DC area, one partner has to be making a lot of money to enable the other to stay home and still maintain a nice lifestyle (nice house in a close in nabe, vacations, nice cars, pricey extracurricular activities for the kiddos, maybe private school, etc.)

To have an UMC lifestyle with a SAHP, the breadwinner has to be making 300-400k +.[/quote]

On my end its less jealous and more...disbelief. I was raised to be independent and to own my own financials. When I went into my marriage I was comfortably set in a career and had two properties free-and-clear. That only helped when we made future decisions together to buy our 'dream' home. [b]It boggles my mind that some women will rely solely on another person's generosity to live their life.[/b]

It disturbs me even further when these same women, some of them friends, were die-hard Hillary fans and very much into telling their daughters that 'this will be the first woman president, someone to look up to, someone to emulate' and yet the closest rolemodel to those daughters completely opted out of a career. How can you tell your children to aspire to be the head of NASA or a president or a multi-millionaire CEO, but you didn't bother to do anything yourself?[/quote]

This is silly given we are all living on someone's generosity to live our lives.  Whether it's your corporation paying your paycheck, your inheritance from your parents, your husband's paycheck, the bank providing you with a mortgage....we are all dependent on someone else.  Not to mention that your husband is entirely dependent on you to be pregnant and give birth to any children of his.  Would you criticize him for that?

Also many women grew up in secure homes and feel completely comfortable relying on their husband.  Many spouses view their assets as joint and they are a partnership.  My dad never cared if my mom worked or not and they have been happily married for years.  My dad very much valued my mom's role in raising children.  The fact you don't seem to value this yourself and seem to only value typical male accomplishments speaks volumes about yourself and how you feel deep down about women.

Fwiw I will be working when I have children. [/quote]

Wonderful points, both on the fact that everyone depends on someone else on some level and on the fact that a secure woman in a secure marriage will be valued and will value herself whether she works inside or outside the home.[/quote]

I don't understand how a woman depending on a husband for his paycheck is any better or worse than a man depending on his wife to give birth to his children and provide childcare?  [/quote]

This is a horrible analogy as it suggests only men can be primary wage earners.  Surely that isn't what you intended.[/quote]

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