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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Wow, I'm surprised the college allows that?! When I was in college, you had to get prior approval for overnight guests and it could never be for more than a night. I have three kids in school now and it is the same way for them as well.[/quote]

Where did you go to school?  Mine didn't have any rules like that, and that was nearly 30 years ago.  My sister's dorms had strict rules, but she was at a catholic college. [/quote]

I graduated from a SLAC in the early 80s and we had no rules about visitors and by the end of my time the one remaining single sex dorm was gone. I also visited various friends at college during that time, from Ivies to SLACs to places like BU, and no rules at any of those. My DCs are current/recent college students and no rules at their schools. Usually roommates just have to work out an agreement on overnight guests. [/quote]

I think you are likely wrong about no rules on this topic. See below policy quotes from the first 3 colleges I pulled up. So there are formal restrictions. I agree with prior poster that there are likely rules at most universities so they have a policy in place in case of abuse of a situation or a serious problem or disagreement. But my guess is that the rules are not enforced much otherwise.

[b]BU:[/b] Generally, residents must accompany their guests at all times. A resident may have no more than three (3) guests at a time, and guests may stay in a room, suite, or apartment no more than three consecutive nights. Residents are able to have guests stay overnight for no more than seven (7) such visits each semester.
Guests are expected to respect and comply with all rules and regulations while in or around the residences. At all times, residents are responsible for the conduct and activity of their guests, including any damage caused to University property and violations of policies for student residences.

[b]YALE:[/b] Guests. Students living in the dormitories may have guests for brief visits, but not for more than a few days. Roommates who feel inconvenienced by the presence of others’ guests should discuss the matter with their residential college head or dean. No guest may be in residence if a host is not present. Students are responsible for the behavior of their guests at all times; guests may not use common areas of a college unless their hosts are present.

[b]UMD[/b]: Residents are held responsible for the behavior of their visitors and guests.
Residents must get the prior approval of their roommate(s) in order to have a guest stay overnight.
Guests may stay in a resident's room for no longer than three consecutive nights, always with the roommate's(s') prior approval.

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Honestly I think these are more recent developments. There were actually fewer policies in the 80s and less emphasis on roommate relations in those days. RAs also got much less training than they do today, and sexual harassment was barely acknowledged.[/quote]

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