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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Uh oh OP.  Sounds like MRAs and their handmaidens have discovered the thread.

It would be nice if you could block these types before they weigh in, because their opinions will inevitably be disregarded regardless.  [/quote]

Whatever. Op's already changing her story to make herself more sympathetic. It couldn't possibly be that her perceiption is skewed about how her DH treats her [/quote]

Sure she is.  And it's all her fault because she emasculated her husband by speaking up.  She's a vicious lying harpy.  :roll:  Did I cover all the bases? [/quote]

Not at all. I think she's probably embarrassed by her DH because he acts awkwardly due to his social anxiety. She tries to cover for his awkwardness, which makes him anxious and he snaps at her. She gets her feelings hurt and snaps back. The therapy suggestion to learn to improve their communication skills was a good one. It might make him realize therapy is helpful and make it easier for him to seek help for his anxiety.

I don't think anyone is all good or all bad in this situation. I think they're both getting under each other's skin and making it worse than it has to be. [/quote]

And you've intuited all this from OP's post?  What an interesting way to shift the responsibility for her DH's actions onto OP.  Before you accused her of "changing her story to make herself more sympathetic".  Once you realized how unhinged that made you sound now you've softened the blow by trying to say they are "both getting under each other's skin"- but it's still somehow OP's fault for "triggering anxiety".  If OP's DH has anxiety to that level where OP stating her name and her child's name causes him to snap- then he has serious psychological issues and needs to get mental help stat.  Either way, it's absurd to put it on OP. [/quote]

She did change her story. I assumed it was to make her seem like a supportive wife. Maybe I was wrong. Maybe it was for a different reason.

It's not her fault he has anxiety. She can do things to make it better, or she can do things to make it worse. Her reaction is her own. He should get therapy. He shouldn't snap at her. But if he's saying the same thing repeatedly (I already said that), maybe she should give some thought to why he's saying that. [/quote]

Her reaction is her own and his reaction is his own.  Her reaction, i.e. answering her name and providing her child's name, was absolutely 100% fine and good.  His was not, and was, in fact, crazy.  It is not up to OP to walk on egg shells and beat herself up for ANSWERING HER NAME because her husband has psychological issues.
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