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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I'd tell him I'm considering disowning him. I know it's not a popular opinion here, but I feel just as strongly that no child of mine will have a job that involves guns or the military.

OP, have you talked extensively with your son about your two friends who died?  [/quote]

:roll: You're an idiot. That's a great way to drive a teenager deeper into their commitment to doing whatever you don't want them to do.

Also, hope you enjoy going to work every day knowing how much of your taxes go to the military! [/quote]

I'm the PP with three military kids, one of whom was seriously injured in Afghanistan.  I'm grateful that the majority of people appreciate our men and women in uniform.  I'm saddened that a parent - any parent - would ever consider "disowning" a child for any reason. There is absolutely nothing my kids could ever do or say that would lead me to even have that thought.  Rather than be angry with this poster, we should feel sad.  This is a parent incapable of unconditional love.  Can you imagine what it must be like for her children.  Unfortunately, those wounds are hard to heal. [/quote]

My kids are happy and healthy and have zero interest in being cops or soldiers so it's fine.  I said it when it came up once. They're not traumatized. Look, we're all entitled to our own opinions.  I respect yours even though I disagree completely with the choices your children made. It would be nice if you could respect mine, but I won't hold my breath.[/quote]

There is no way any decent person on this planet could "respect" your statement that you  would "disown" your child. It isn't about the military and the fact that you can't see that makes it even sadder.  Most parents would never in a millions years even think those words, much less type them out and defend them. And then you added that you actually said it to your child, but only once so it's ok? There is nothing my children could ever do that would make me say that.  Nothing.  Your kids are not going to be happy and healthy.  Those words don't just fade away.  Therapy may help.  But you will never have a healthy relationship with your adult kids. Parents just don't talk to their kids like that without doing serious damage. [/quote]

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