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[quote=Anonymous]to 12:30 from someone who has also been in the trenches: the best advice someone gave me when we did our older-child adoption was to think of it as a process of "re-patterning". You are taking a child that has had no stability, inconsistent or non-existent love and affection, and thus has no baseline expectation of what a normal functional family life is. The best thing was did was absolutely ruthless adherence to routine. Dinner is at 6:30. Every night. Around the table. As a family. We say grace. Bedtime at the same time, sharp. Routine creates security. Kids who have been used to chaos may struggle against it initially but will come to embrace it.[/quote]
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