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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]DH is military and has to wake up at 5:45am to get to PT.  He gets home between 7:15 and 7:30 am, showers, dresses, and leaves the house around 8 to arrive to work at 8:30. In the meantime, I wake up, get our 2 yo son up, and leave the house at 7:30 in order to do daycare drop off and be at work by 8:05 sharp. I leave at 5:05 pm and do pickup.  I agreed to do dropoff and pickup, as long as DH would help get DS ready in the morning. The problem is DH never helps. He gets home and takes care of himself.  I called him out on it and he said "I promised I'd help WHEN I CAN". I took that to mean, when he's back from PT in time. I guess he takes it to mean when he is not rushed to get to work.

I feel squeezed on all sides. I already had to get a written agreement from my boss to come in at 8:05 instead of 8:00.  And there are many times I would like to stay late, but I can't. This means, I often work through lunch so I can get out on time.  Meanwhile my husband will call me at work and ask to take me out to lunch!

I told DH I was feeling squeezed and pressured, and I'm getting flack from my boss.  His solution is I need to wake up earlier.  He's correct that this would solve things, but I feel like I am making all the compromises here.  DH comes home after me, and I've already fed our son and cleaned the kitchen.  I'm ok with that because he will cook for us or pick up take out.  It's just in the morning I feel it is unfair that he owns his time while I share my time with our kid. I feel we should both do it.  I finally told him that if he is in the house while I am in the house in the morning and not helping to get DS ready, I'm going to leave and he can take DS to school.  Of course now we are pissed off at each other.  Anyone have any advice?[/quote]

I don't know. You have a husband who is still interested enough in you to suggest lunch dates, and cooks dinner so those seem positive. Maybe consider yourself lucky that you don't need PT every day? (I'm assuming he has physical therapy--I'm not military so I don't know). Can you look for a job with more flexibility? Mine has core required hours of 10-2, for example.[/quote]

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