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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]DH has been at his current job for 20 years. Last year, he made $64,000. He works 60 hour weeks and often on weekends. His commute is 2 hours a day. I have tried on occasion to convince him to look for something else for at least 10 years. I also work. We are in our early 50's and can't save for anything. Our small savings has been eaten away to pay bills. I have considered trying to get a higher paying job myself, but my job is very flexible and I am able to take kids to after school activities, doctor appointments etc... As it is, I do all the cleaning, shopping, laundry, bills and cooking. My husband is very smart and a hard worker, but this has been a huge disappointment for me. I feel very resentful. Am I being unreasonable? DH likes his job, but he also complains about it a lot.[/quote]

I am you, and you are me. But 10 years ago. We are 40, DH has refused to leave his job pays similar, been there 7 years, 60-75 hour weeks, I do everything. I feel your pain it's no life. Just brokeness and rushing around being a single married mom.

You are not unreasonable. He needs a new job. Clearly, he won't initiate on his own. I just did DH's resume, got logged into his Linkedin. I am getting the ball rolling. I think some men are bad with dealing with errands and loose ends outside of their job.[/quote]

No, men are enabled to act like babies by society that guilts women into doing care taking work for them.  Just like this and this thread [/quote]

Most of the women here are "guilting" men for not making enough money. Don't turn it around like some man posted here complaining about not being taken care of by his wife.[/quote]

No, men don't need to make posts like that, because women do the majority of household chores and are forced to take care of almost all household duties.  Nice situation if you can get it, huh? [/quote]

And men are under much more social pressure to make good money and attain "status." Nice to have the social flexibility to be allowed to be a stay at home parent, or work part time without being punished for it, huh?[/quote]

Not really, considering either way you will be expected to do all the housework and childcare, which is a full time job in it of itself.  And now, if you are dissatisfied with the fact that you are in that position, it's because your are a greedy golddiger, right?

LOL.  You guys have really perfected this thing. [/quote]

OP is not being a golddigger. She just doesn't respect her husband because he doesn't make a lot of money. Oh wait ...

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She does not respect her husband because he has no issue with saddling her with 100% of the household work.  And simply because he does not want to switch jobs.

Frankly, i don't respect him either. [/quote]

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