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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]As a new MIL, I'm going to take this thread to heart. I hadn't realized people were sensitive about this subject, since I don't take it personally if someone talks about things in my rather shabby house that could be fixed or improved. It's an inanimate object I use for shelter.

BUT, since it's a sensitive issue, especially coming from a parent/in-law, I'm going to be careful, having read the reactions here. I've only been to their house once, since they live on the other side of the country. I was excited that they'd bought, and was asking them some questions about what they planned to do, if anything, just out of interest. I don't actually care whether they do anything with the house, and I certainly don't judge. And they're both very busy. I hope they didn't take it wrong.[/quote]

I'm sure if you stop there, you're fine; the first time you see a house, it's natural to ask a bit more than usual.

But you really must stop there. Remember that this is someone else's house, even if that someone else is family. It is incredibly rude to walk into someone's home and essentially comment that their house isn't good enough. You are a GUEST, act like a GUEST.

Now, if they bring it up, and ask what you think, of course feel free to engage in conversation. But other than that, keep it positive. "Oh, I love the new curtains you put in" is a very welcome comment. "When are you going to replace those curtains?" is NOT.[/quote]

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