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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]If you have him on a strict diet and you're ashamed of him, you are only making the problem worse.[/quote]
I am ashamed of the fact that he is overweight/borderline obese and given the conditions I don't see how a diet can possibly make things worse. Would you continue feeding your child the same when it is clear that he is in danger of health problems and with his size, in danger of being picked on. Especially if he is not aware of this diet - only being 8! Pretty irrelevant comment if you ask me[/quote]

It's proven that trying to get a child to eat less will make him eat more.  This comment isn't "irrelevant" - it's what you need to know. Food restriction + shame is going to make him eat more.  You need to acknowledge how your own behavior could be making things worse.  It's hard to own up to our parenting mistakes.  Talk to his pediatrician and/or a registered dietitian.

If you feed him mostly healthy foods and lots of opportunity for physical activities, you'll set him up for establishing healthy habits and the weight will take care of itself.

I hope you take a good look at yourself and figure out why a child having a body type different from the one you prefer causes you to be ashamed.  [/quote]

So you regard having an 8 year old boy with such substantial belly fat that it overlaps his belt and he can't fit into shirts or trousers unless they're sized for almost double his age as something to be proud of? And where did you find this information that shows that children on a diet eat more? If I'm controlling how much he eats how can he possibly eat more? And can everyone please understand I am not ashamed of my son I love him to pieces, what I am ashamed of is that I have lost control of his weight and he could be suffering from health problems or bullying because of it! And a diet is feeding him mostly healthy foods and keeping him swimming so I don't really understand your point about that bit. Even the husky sized clothes for his age sometimes can't fit around his chubby belly and if that doesn't call for desperate measures I sort of don't know what does? I just long for the day that when he sits down in his trunks at the pool his belly doesn't cover them up![/quote]

There is a big gap between "being proud" of him and being ashamed. If you control your son's food intake he will binge whenever he gets the opportunity. Play date, restaurant, sneaking food.  I recommend that you read some of ellyn satter's books on feeding children. Just the way you describe his body is alarming. Please seek professional help for him [/quote]

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