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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I know kids with ADHD who have similar behaviors. It's attention getting. Often. Or just not knowing how to engage socially. These behaviors seem fairly usual to me for a 5 yo with some SN. (I realize that doesn't make them easier to deal with.) I liked Russell Barkley's books on parenting kids with ADHD. It doesn't mean he is cognitively delayed, but social skill delays can impact other areas.[/quote]

Great post, PP... very well said.
My 9 year old DS has ADHD & it seems everything he does is for attention.
It doesn't matter if it's positive attention or negative attention, attention is attention to him.   He says classmates use the word "annoying" most with him,

He wants SO badly to be liked & so he'll do things that he THINKS will make him cool or make a lot of friends (like brag about something that he has, or shows off a skill he has) which we all know accomplishes the exact opposite of what he hopes to do & actually turns people off instead of liking him.

It's like he can't get out of his own way.

No matter how many times I try & explain it to him, it's like it goes in one ear & out the other & when he's just being himself, he is THE funniest kid I've ever met, but when he tries to be someone he's not, it comes across fake, disingenuous & well, awkward.
 
We were in the car with a friend of his the other day & the boy was bragging about how he got these $800 VR goggles for Christmas & a Sony somethingorother & after we dropped him off, I said to my son "how did that make you feel when Larlo was talking about all the stuff he got?" & he said "it wasn't cool that he was bragging like that, I didn't like it and I couldn't wait for him to get out of the car".  So I explained to him that's how other kids perceive him when he does it too... he definitely understood after that.  That situation made a better impact than any of the 500 ways I've tried to explain it to him before.

I looked online & YouTube to see if there were any helpful role playing videos that showed kids bragging or showing off (remember Goofus & Glalant from Highlights magazine?) I was looking for  something similar to that in a video version (like the instructional Stranger Danger videos) as it seemed it really sunk in when he got to see first hand for himself how it looks to others.
Does anyone know of anything like that?  I think it could help the OP as well, let them see how their behavior is perceived by their classmates & friends.

I love my son so much & it absolutely breaks my heart to see how much he wants to be liked, just to have him self sabotage anything that could be a real friendship.
Hi sister said to me the other day "I wish I could just go to school as him for one day & fix all of his friendships".  :cry:

All suggestions & ideas are very much appreciated

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