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You write what looks like a movie pitch.

In case this is real, listen to you heart deep inside. [b]The outside of you is a selfish bitch.[/b][/quote]

As mean as this is, YOU'RE RIGHT! I realized I was being selfish, thinking totally of myself but felt that, for once in my life I might be entitled to do so, damnit! I had my DD young and sacrificed everything--promotions, those exciting transfers to other cities--for her and now's my time!

But life is what happens when you're busy making other plans.[/quote]

Sorry for insulting you, and thank you for taking it so gracefully.

However it rubs me the wrong way when you imply that somehow raising kids was such a chore, and that now "finally" you're able to enjoy your life. It also saddens me that you're apparently taking your sister's current suffering very lightly and insisting that she was a horrid person before. I know you think this should color the present situation, but it really doesn't. You don't bring this up when the poor woman is in danger of dying, OP. It's just not right on the part of a blood relative, and this is what I meant when I thought it was a movie script. You sounded very impersonal and detached.[/quote]

I had a GREAT time raising MY OWN child. And would've had 10 times the fun if I'd had 10 times the kids. We're talking about my sister's kids. And I'm finally able to live my life selfishlessly, without being responsible for anyone else.

I have never been close to this sister who is many years older than me, but a bit of the detachment may also be not knowing how grave her situation truly is. She's always in and out of the hospital and asked me to take her daughter if anything happened to her during a hospital visit 10 years ago. This time, she may be graver than ever before, but I've always had the impression she was being dramatic during every sickness. This time she's older and likely sicker. There's also that thought she has in her head of sending her child(ren) to live with me even if she's alive that made  me start thinking more seriously about the possibility.[/quote]

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