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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Thanks everybody. This was all really helpful and I am SO sorry so many of you have gone through this. :(

I do absolutely plan to drive and fly there at least every couple of weeks. We are on our way now

I want to be there all the time, but feasibly, we can't; school aged, elementary children and a husband with a non  flexible international travel schedule make it near impossible, even if I quit my job for this term.

I don't know. Maybe I can. I was devastated last night and not thinking clearly. We will know more Wednesday about how long she has. If it really is only a couple of weeks and not months, and she foregoes treatment, I can try to make it work.

The not knowing, the distance. Just terrible.

Thanks for all of the perspectives and heart.

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Thinking of you today OP.

As a PP up thread posted, please call on friends to help and accept offers of help.  If a friend were in your situation I would gladly take one or both of their kids as needed to help, including school week sleepovers to accomodate Dad's travel, or to be your emergency backup if you just need to take off suddenly. I know not everyone feels that way, but I know there are many of us who do, and for whom life is better when we are able to help and be helped. You will do your friends a favor if you let them be of service to take some of the edge off.

I hope you get some more answers today.  I know the period of uncertainty is terrible.[/quote]

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