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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Depends on the person. My MIL definitely favors my oldest. I hate it. It's so obvious. My dad's mom favored me, and it was so uncomfortable for me with my siblings. My mom's loved us all equally. She was a great grandma. [/quote]

I'm in a similar boat (MIL favors oldest) and it drives me nuts. It's clear she's not doing it intentionally, she just developed a close bond with older DS, her first grandchild, and hasn't really made a concious effort to do so with our younger (by 3 years) DD. DH is an only, and we're done with 2, so these are likely her only grandchildren.

Were here now for the week after Christmas, and just tonight she did two unconscious things that jumped out at me. In the car home from dinner, she gave DD her phone to play with, and ignored or just didn't notice (hard of hearing) DD whining to see/play too, so I gave her my phone to play with. Then when stopped at the ice cream place, we were all sitting outside shivering, and she gives her only sweater to DS without thinking about how that would feel to DD.

We've had to remind her in the past to keep gifts roughly equal, because the first two Christmases after DD was born she bought almost double the number of gifts for DS, and still when sending random gifts of clothes, etc., she'll send more for DS and say she couldn't find anything she liked for DD.

My parents don't appear to do this. My DS is the only boy but not the oldest for them, but I can't say that I've ever noticed any favoritism towards my brother's kids.

MIL clearly loves her DD, she just doesn't *notice* her as much as DS. I really hope that changes before she's old enough to notice (she's 3 now), cause I'm not sure how to handle it. [/quote]

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