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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP if you've been going out with her for 3 years and in mid-20s she's been long since ready for you to make the next move which is at least getting engaged.  You didn't do that so she's very unhappy with you.  She's now looking for a rationale to dump you other than that "He wouldn't ask me to marry him!" because that would hurt her ego too much.  So she's looking for excuses to dump you in your behavior, in reinforcing that you're not marriage material from her friends' criticisms (which is why she even told you about it).

Do you want a future with her or not?  If so, you need to have a very serious talk about what "the future" means.  I guarantee it isn't another year or two or three of a relationship that's all about partying and doing shots.

What all her friends and she is implying is, "Would a man who is serious about settling down, getting married, and having children be acting like the life of the party clown?"  No he would not.  [/quote]

We've talked about it a few times and she's said she'd like to date at least as long as her parents did before getting married (5 years). Not sure how you reach the conclusion of "she's been long since ready for you to make the next move which is at least getting engaged".[/quote]

You said in your original post that she is talking engagement. That means she is ready.

And shots really aren't that big of a deal unless there are a bunch of other immaturity problems going on.

Always assume positive intentions. Unless your gf is a sociopath, she's not purposely doing this just to hurt you. Try to figure out from her perspective why she does it. It helps if you can ask her nicely without getting defensive and angry. [/quote]

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