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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Well he did put them in a boys league at U9 in the spring. And yes - as another poster commented, most of the competitive teams play up a year, and some in 2 leagues as well. Should they have been in the top bracket for this spring.... probably not.

That begs the question of development vs winning. I see some folks take one side or another, when [b]IMO there really needs to be a balance.[/b]  [/quote]

No there doesn't. The kids will keep the score. The kids will naturally compete. The score needs to be forgotten once you leave the field.[/quote]

It’s hard for 10 year olds who had a lot of success up until March, to forget 0-3, 0-5, 0-8 scores on the walk back to the car and tears flowing down, and shrug it off. As much as you can ask them if they even remember scores from a year ago and reinforce the journey - that none of the scores matter, for some players it still matters and the succession week after week after week. Expecting all 10 year olds to shrug off those beat downs, kinda unrealistic.[/quote]
DP here, who starts most of my comments by pointing out that I am no fan of BSC. At all.  But your child is 10. [b]They didn’t have “success” earlier in the year, and they don’t have failure now. [/b]It’s all just opportunities to play at that age, truly. You really need to reinforce for your DD that wins and losses mean absolutely nothing at that age. If she hates losing? Great. She can hopefully channel that passion into on field performances down the road when wins and losses matter when she’s HS age. [/quote]

Exactly! A kid responding to wins and losses is a parenting and coaching problem that is fixable.

I don’t have a problem with the losses. I have a problem with playing up and then losing lopsided just as much as I would have had an issue with if they played their level and won lopsided.

Girls have more solutions than boys to get competition at that age so people simply need to be more creative. The ideal scenario is that you are involved in lots of 1-2 goal differential games. Whether you win most or lose most, you are in the best developmental situation possible.[/quote]

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