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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Respectfully need to partially disagree, my MIL was date raped at 15 by her 22 year old Mennonite boyfriend, then forced to marry him by her pastor father. Her husband emotionally, verbally and sexually abused her for 12 years. She got a job outside of the home and had an affair with a coworker to escape her church and husband as adultery was the only way she thought she could get free. Her community, parents and husband would not allow her to divorce. She was shunned by them all for a season, but she got out and married her lover moved far away and had a glorious 34 years of true love with new study husband. To this day her ex takes no responsibility for the divorce because she cheated. So I guess you can say she should have taken her two young kids while having no higher education and left behind her entire world on her own, but she didn’t have that kind of courage.

So no I’m not victim blaming. There is no excuse for cheating. Brandon should have manned up and left his narcissistic fame seeking wife if he was so miserable. It would have been better for all involved. BUT….in Brandon’s case that guy was crying out for help. He went to multiple types of therapy, started radically changing his appearance, beliefs, relationships. There were some red flags this marriage needed serious intervention to survive. It’s pretty clear Jen is all about Jen and Brandon was not getting top billing not even close. That’s not victim blaming that’s saying Jen played a role in her marriage’s implosion. Mind you we still do not have definitive proof Brandon cheated. [/quote]

What about if he was in therapy for a tragic event he caused by his own irresponsibility and drinking? And if the people around him including Jen tried to help? And in his spiral he also cheated and did other things to implode his marriage? A wife can’t fix someone who doesn’t want to be fixed…

And his own fragile ego also couldn’t handle that he wasn’t the big man and wasn’t as popular as his wife? Like, look at his insta now….he is screaming to be the big shot! That’s Jen’s fault because she should’ve made her star shine less bright to make his ego feel better? I hate that expectation put on women. A REAL man cheers his wife on when her star is shining bright, he doesn’t sulk and get jealous and find and ego boost by cheating. Even if you don’t like her beliefs/find her irritating/think she’s cashing in with all the shilling - suggesting she had any role in his imploding of the marriage totally is victim blaming and it’s the same misogynistic message women get told all the time when their marriages fail. “If she’d paid more attention to him maybe he wouldn’t have left her” “if she’d taken better care of herself he would’ve cheated” “if she hadn’t nagged he probably wouldn’t have asked for a divorce” Your comments are in the same vein as those. Women deserve better, even annoying mommy bloggers. And I don’t even like Jen![/quote]

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