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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]It's fascinating to me that the people who are responding in disagreement think this is about letting the husband off the hook and letting him act like a man-baby.

To the poster who's got it all figured out 4 years in, congrats!  Talk to me in 16. . .
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Hey smarty pants, I included that so I wouldn't sound like a sanctimonious ass. We are still new to this. I could have just lied you know  :P 
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Yea just some men don't respond well to feeling they are being told how things are going to be - things were 50/50 for us until we had kids - have you had kids yet? [/quote]

Yeah, that is the thing. The imbalance doesn't manifest until there are major situational changes. You move from an apt or townhouse rented into the house you bought, and now there is yard and lawn work, things break and you have to fix them, etc. And then you have kids and he just does whatever he wants to do, despite what you, the house or the kids need.

And I can either chose to get angry again about the fact that he screwed my long standing plans and left me with DD when he agreed to take her so I could do something, or I can just pay for a last minute babysitter. It is exactly as if I were a single mom.

The chain on the toilet broke in his bathroom no one else uses. That was 3 months ago and he is still sticking his hand in the water to lift the flapper. I can chose to not deal with it, not get angry he is lazy. If it bothers him, he can fix it. DD used the little potty in his bathroom (which I do check for pee when I walk in there, because she doesn't always tell us) and I noticed a few days ago it had pee in it. He could clearly see the pee every day. I chose not to do anything about it and let DH deal, she is hardly up there anyway. Then yesterday, I saw it was molding. I didn't know pee could mold. So, I dealt with it, because gross. Mentioning either of these things to him, he would just act like I was a jerk for bringing them up, that he "forgot" or he planned to do it eventually.

My DH is one of the lazy ones. I get no sorries, no excuses and no credit. I just stopped giving a fuck because of recent encounters. He made me coffee a couple of times this week. [/quote]

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