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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]This post reflects some fucked up notions about a woman's value. As if physical beauty is the beginning and end of what she has to offer. As if it's a good idea for her to "lock in" a life time with a guy who wouldn't want to be with her if she met him in her 30s. As if it's illegal for her to propose.

Date someone who is kind to you. If you love them, marry them. If they don't want to get married & you do, move on to someone else who is kind to you. Repeat as necessary. [/quote]

It's pretty naive to say this is just about beauty as a woman's value.  It's about a woman knowing what she wants.  My friend is wasting her time with her boyfriend because he's made it clear he's nowhere near ready to get married even though they've been together for 6 years.  She'll be 30 in 2 months.  She has ALWAYS wanted to be married and have kids before she's 35.  She's made that clear to him numerous times.  She loves him and keeps hoping he will magically be ready.  It's hard to just dump someone after spending so much time with them.  But its also unfair to her.  Her boyfriend knows what she wants and yet won't give it to her by either proposing or breaking up with her.  She won't propose because she knows that's not what he wants.

Now let's say they break up next year when she's 31.  That gives her 4 years to meet someone, get married, and have kids.  [b]Her market of finding guys that are going to be great is smaller since 30 is around the age that the number of eligible people really begins to drop off.  [/b]

Sure, it would be nice if it was as easy as "move on to someone else" but the reality is moving on after a certain number of years is pretty damn hard.  [/quote]

THIS!

My college bf and I broke up at 24. While upsetting, this was not overly daunting at the time because of all the opportunities to still meet people: grad school being the main one.  I'm married now, but I think it would be REALLY  hard to meet someone now at 30. School mixers are no more. Professional happy hours are for networking, not dating. No single girlfriends to go out with after work to bars and meet guys, etc. [/quote]

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