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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]^ I said I work out daily AND walk in my first post.

And also, try not to be so condescending with your "Good god, calm down." Nowhere was I worked up--and you know it. But people like you are the problem. You want things to be so black and white, you refuse to consider that situations and metabolisms vary.

You were also condescending with your dismissive with the "body pump or whatever" comment. Do you think that is helpful to anyone, really? Even if that is what I were doing, or the OP, being such a prat serves no purpose.

My point is, I think there are factors at work in our environment, food, and medications that we don't quite fully understand.

MY SSRI and my stacked BCP, as well as early menopause, are the  most likely culprits for my formerly fit and trim body blowing up. I have been a whole foods, all natural organic, minimally processed eater for the better part of 20 years so diet isn't really an issue.

I think it used to be a simple equation of calories in, calories out, but we are finding out is more complex.

Regardless, the OP's husband is doing no one any favors by monitoring her calorie intake. Even if for OP it is just a matter of cutting back, her husband's approach is NOT going to work.[/quote]

I think you are confusing me with the multitudes of people who are being harsh on the OP.  Not everyone is built to have low body fat.

I struggle with my own weight, too, and have realized that limiting my caloric intake and sticking to high reps/low weight was doing me zero favors.  I am so sorry for suggesting that what worked to improve my metabolism might be of assistance to someone else. I started dropping fat and adding muscle when I added recovery days - working out 3-4 days max -  and ate a bit more than I thought I needed to in order to lose fat. Insufficient recovery doesn't allow for muscle growth.  More muscle, higher metabolism.  You are not going to be that special person that can work out every single day, eat very little, and build muscle as effectively as someone who rests and fuels appropriately.

The vast majority of women are not lifting heavy and/or are not eating enough to fuel their workouts.  This is science.  Will you ever be able to eat 2500 calories a day and not gain weight? Probably not.  Could you maybe improve your situation incrementally by fueling muscle gain?  Maybe.  I don't believe it's calories in/calories out at all.  This is obviously a sore topic for you, and I am sorry I upset you. [/quote]

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