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Wedding invitations from Americans don't specify the types of gifts or even the existence of a wedding registry. It is information that is obtained informally from someone who is in the know as to whether there is registry though as a PP pointed out it can also be found through googling it in many cases. The reason it is not part of the invitation is because there is an attempt to separate the event from using it to acquire gifts.

But - whatever may happen in India - you have had several Indians on this thread defending the appropriateness of asking for a cash gift and to make matters worse it is part of the invitation. A PP even bragged about paying off her student loans using the proceeds from the cash gifts.[/quote]

India is as diverse as it gets. Each region has their customs/traditions. If a few PPs posted they were ok with accepting cash gifts, it isn't representative of the entire south Asian community. And in no part of India do people explicitly mention or even hint at a wedding registry or what kind of gifts they would like to receive. When I lived there brides/grooms never had wedding registries. I don't know how it is today. It is customary for only close relatives, I.e immediate paternal/maternal to gift the bride/groom, either in gold or cash. Others aren't even expected to contribute.[/quote]

Fair points!

However, to non-Indians or those unfamiliar with India and protocols followed, what struck me was the defense of cash gifts and asking for cash gifts by some PPs' who were presumably of Indian origin. This seems all the more odd given what you say about giving gifts at weddings in India - although there was the one PP who insisted that giving cash gifts at weddings was the norm in India. She was also aggrieved that her white in-laws gave either no gifts or nominal amounts of cash and suggested that it had impacted her relationship with her in-laws!

Then you had other PPs' suggesting that white people should not be invited to Indian weddings because of what they deemed to be the "mocking" of Indian traditions in the way of giving gifts at weddings.[/quote]

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