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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]There is no bloody "South Asian" way of gift giving in weddings. So don't stereotype. I am Indian, who moved here as an adult and ALL weddings in my family had a "no presents pls" on the wedding card. I think implying in any way how they would like to receive gifts is crass[/quote]

I lived in India for 26 years and never once have I seen anything printed about presents other than "no presents pls" on a wedding card. Some people bring gifts some don't. And weddings are large affairs, there. Anywhere from a 100 to 500 people invited. 
 [b]It wasn't until I moved here that I learned about the concept of wedding registries and mention of gifting on wedding cards. I still find it tacky. [/quote][/b]

Wedding invitations from Americans don't specify the types of gifts or even the existence of a wedding registry. It is information that is obtained informally from someone who is in the know as to whether there is registry though as a PP pointed out it can also be found through googling it in many cases. The reason it is not part of the invitation is because there is an attempt to separate the event from using it to acquire gifts.

But - whatever may happen in India - you have had several Indians on this thread defending the appropriateness of asking for a cash gift and to make matters worse it is part of the invitation. A PP even bragged about paying off her student loans using the proceeds from the cash gifts.[/quote]

India is as diverse as it gets. Each region has their customs/traditions. If a few PPs posted they were ok with accepting cash gifts, it isn't representative of the entire south Asian community. And in no part of India do people explicitly mention or even hint at a wedding registry or what kind of gifts they would like to receive. When I lived there brides/grooms never had wedding registries. I don't know how it is today. It is customary for only close relatives, I.e immediate paternal/maternal to gift the bride/groom, either in gold or cash. Others aren't even expected to contribute.[/quote]

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