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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]We see families skipping holidays and big events at even younger years. We have a small extended family and my cousin let her 10 year old skip out on attending his great grandfather's funeral dying at age 99 because of a sports tournament. She said "he didn't know him too well" which is true, but only because the grandfather was in his 90's when the kid was 5 and already had some dementia. This grandfather has been the patriarch of the entire family, being an inspiration for all of us the way he conducted himself throughout his life, buying entire vacations for extended family over the years, buying a summer house for everyone to visit every summer, and encouraging all of his children and grandchildren to play sports which this great grandchild is benefitting from. We spent hours at the funeral reminiscing on stories of his life and met people who'd known him from all different times in his life. You can't recreate that event at another time [b]and age 10 would have been a perfect year for the child to have heard some of these stores[/b] and remembered them growing up. My neighbor says she never has Thanksgiving with her sister because the sister is always at a pageant for her daughter which is scheduled every year on Thanksgiving weekend. The pageants started at age 10 as well. Maybe at the high school level, this type of commitment is justified, but I think in general parents are not pushing back enough to create more time for family.[/quote]

No. The 10 year old would not have been listening to stories, at best he would be hanging with cousins but most likely would be bored and trying to entertain himself.

This is a very glamorized vision of what would have happened but when my dad died I had my in-laws take them home after an hour so I could mourn properly. [/quote]

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