Reply to SAHMs, do you worry about your husband leaving you?

Forum Index » Relationship Discussion (non-explicit)

Reply to "SAHMs, do you worry about your husband leaving you?"

Subject:

Emoticons





More smilies

Text Color: Font: Close Marks

[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]True, but I also think a lot of people, either deliberately or not, don't see the stress their breadwinning spouses are under. [/quote]

My DH is a stand up guy and I was a SAHM for many years. He never ONCE complained. He went to work faithfully each day, worked long hours, and brought home a nice paycheck.

I returned to work after a few years, because I no longer had toddlers in the house and found that I wanted more. I really noticed a change in my DH after I returned to work...he was more relaxed and started coming home earlier.  I realized that my DH was relieved, but only admitted it after I said something.  He stopped the long hours because he knew there was a back-up plan and no longer felt the pressure to keep at a grinding pace.

The change in his ability to participate in the kids lives was something I never even anticipated.  He used to come home at 7/8 at night on a regular basis and gradually moved back into a normal 40 hour work week. It did not in the least impact his career or earnings. I think he just gave himself permission to have a family life since everyone was not relying on his paycheck. He could have NEVER EVER coached a sports team or been a den leader had he kept up those hours. My DH has really stepped up his game and has made up for a lot of lost time. He is that guy who is coaching and at every school function. My kids glow with pride having their dad around. These years are so short and the gift of time is the most wonderful you can give a child.

Though I enjoyed my years at home with the kids, but I feel sad that my DH did not feel like he had the chance to have the same level of enjoyment until I returned to work. I did not even realize this when I was at home. I just thought his job was demanding, not that he felt compelled to put in crazy hours to make sure he kept his job and was able to provide.[/quote]

Options

	Disable HTML in this message
	Disable BB Code in this message
	Disable smilies in this message

Review message

Search Recent Topics Hottest Topics