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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Sorry, but the man is right. You're a SAHM when your kids are little. When they're in school you're a housewife. Sorry, it's not politically correct, but it's true. I know lots of women who essentially go to the gym all day. Many of their husbands chip in as much or more than mine. I don't think it matters as long as the people in the relationship are happy, but own it, people. Just admit you work out all day. Don't give other people the power to act like it's not enough if it works for you.

That said, keep some money handy in case you need it.....even if your marriage stays in tact![/quote]

Schedule of this "housewife" with five children.  Morning begins at 6:45 a.m.  Wake up the children, make breakfast, make sure everyone is showered, brushed, dressed appropriately, and completely packed for the day ahead.  Leave the house by 7:30 a.m.  Drive the children to drop-offs at three different stops and schools, the last drop-off being at 8:30 a.m.  Try to circle back home to hit the gym from 9:00-10:00 a.m.  Run any necessary errands for the family from 10:00-11:00 a.m., this may include stops at the grocery store, stops at dry cleaner, purchase any supplies the household needs, mail runs.  Return home and organize and clean the house from 11:00-1:00 p.m. (we do not have a nanny), this includes making the beds, unloading the previous night's dishes, loading the morning dishes, picking up dirty laundry and starting a new cycle, folding and putting away the previous night's laundry, running the vacuum throughout the dirtiest areas of the house, cycling through one bedroom and one bathroom a day for a deeper cleaning.  At 1:00 p.m. I eat lunch, and begin prepping and making the night's dinner.  I try to shower by 1:50 p.m., so I can be out the door again by 2:10 p.m. at the latest for my first after-school pick-up at 2:30 p.m.  From that point until approximately 8:00 p.m. I am constantly driving one or the other of our five children to one activity or another.  DH gets home by 8:30 p.m., and we all eat dinner together.  Dishes are done and loaded for the next day by 9:15 p.m., and the children are in bed or in their rooms studying for the night by 9:30 p.m.  DH and I go out for a walk rain or shine until 10:00 p.m., generally followed by some great sex, and then some reading in bed.  Lights out by 11:00 p.m.  We have been married 19 years, and together for 22.  I love my DH, I love our children, and I would not trade my days for any other .[/quote]

Most American SAHMs are more like the poster above, they are some version of a glorified nanny, maid, cook, chauffeur, laundress, tutor, personal assistant, and escort rolled into one exhausted woman (or man).  The gym bunnies toting Starbucks and shopping all day which you so persistently charicature repeatedly in your many previous postings above are a very small and privileged sliver of the American SAHM.  Perhaps you live a sheltered and provincial life surrounded only by the very wealthiest Americans if you think that the average American SAHM lives a life of leisure straight out of the pages of Town & Country.  To those SAHMs who do live that life, good for you!  :D [/quote]

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