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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]NP. AA parent here and I am fine with my son dating a non-AA. However, I do not want rejects from other races. Most of the white women I know who exclusively pursue AA men do so because they are not waif thin and AA culture has different norms as far as what is physically attractive. Please make note of the use of the word, "exclusively." I call it the Kim K theory - Kim K was too curvy for white men in her social bracket  and too lazy to lose the weight/starve herself so she went for men who found her most attractive. As long as my son gets the best, brightest, blondest, skinniest educated Becky from a family who matches our SES, I am good. That goes for any other race as well.

No, SES of the family is not as important to me with an AA woman as long as she is smart and headed in the right direction academically and eventually professionally. Think Claire Huxtable. Dr. Cliff Huxtable (Bill Cosby) was from a long line of affluent, educated AAs and it always seemed that Claire was from a normal middle class upbringing. Fine, because she went to Hillman (think Howard, Hampton, Morehouse or Spelman) and then law school, after which she became a successful practicing attorney. AA culture is a little bit different from mainstream in that we do not entirely correlate SES of the family with class. There are other ways we measure that which allows for a bit more movement through the ranks, if you will. Race is very central to the identity of AAs and to our experiences as US citizens. If you are a minority you probably understand. So having to bring a person into your SES versus having to bring a person into your SES and get them to understand your race are two very different things.

At the end of the day, you can take Shaqueena our whatever made up name was referenced earlier out of "the hood" and she can assimilate, educate and move up within the AA community. On the other hand, you can take Becky out of the trailor but you aren't getting the trailor out of Becky. I welcome any upper class (not just high SES - two different things guys) parent to let me know if I am wrong and you truly are letting Becky marry into your family.[/quote]

AA mom here (and a pp). Agree with many of the points you make, especially re: acceptance/SES. [/quote]

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