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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][b]My parents never took a weekend away just them.[/b] That is a newer trend among the affluent and those with young local family. We took one vacation without our kids and our younger one cried for us. Didn’t vacation without the kids for another 15 years.[/quote]

Mine did. I'm 46. This isn't a "trend."[/quote]

I’m 48 and I don’t know one family that took a weekend away trip without their kids from my childhood at all. This was not a thing if your parents did it was certainly an exception. It is a trend that more younger people are doing it now, but in the past, people did not have the time or the resources to take weekend away trips without their kids.[/quote]

Hm, I'm 49 and my parents left us for solo trips all the time. Mostly they left us with nearby family or family friends, but they did once leave the 3 of us (ages 22, 20, and 12) alone for a two week international trip. [/quote]

Same, down to the two-week international trip, except I'm two years younger than you.[/quote]

I’m laughing at all these people whose parents went on multiple week international trips decades ago leaving them behind. Next, people who are grew up with a full time in-house housekeepers are going to start talking about it as though it was a normal or common thing. [/quote]

I’m in my 50s and grew up very middle class (typical vacation was to like everyone into a car, drive to another state and then camp).  My parents did take one long international trip when I was 4.  It was my grandmothers 80th birthday and they took her to her home country where they had never been—they left me for the two weeks with my older siblings (who in today’s dcumlandia would be referred to as “parentified”).  It was a little traumatic but I survived.  Back then you couldn’t even call or email!  I think the traumatic part was that they took my grandmother.  Had they just left me with my grandmother they could have gone to Timbuktu and I would barely have noticed.  But my siblings were of the “tough love” variety — I distinctly remember them saying “go ahead and cry as loud as you want — mom cant hear you across the ocean.”   There may have also been renditions of  the song “don’t cry out loud” An, siblings.  
Anyway, if we want to get all historical, people used to send their kids away at 7 to work in the great houses or to apprentice, so this whole idea of parents always being with their kids is a pretty new invention.  [/quote]

The idea of parents having children as people they wanted to be around, as opposed labor or heirs, is a new invention. Why exactly are we going back to that for this discussion?[/quote]

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