Reply to I want to get away from friend groups/communities with this specific type of woman: where to go?

Forum Index » Relationship Discussion (non-explicit)

Reply to "I want to get away from friend groups/communities with this specific type of woman: where to go?"

Subject:

Emoticons





More smilies

Text Color: Font: Close Marks

[quote=Anonymous]I am curious about what precise details in the OP are making people so mad, since many of the details are actually complimentary or neutral (who wouldn't want a good family, to be highly accomplished, well off, and socially adept?).

My money is on the description of the DH as bro-y but dense, and the suggestion that such women only have hangers-on and social rivals but lack real friendships. The DH description is likely hitting too close to home for comfort (describes so many husbands of UMC women, and women are particularly sensitive to criticisms of their partner, as they feel it reflects back on them), and the thing about friendships is very likely to trigger insecurity because very few women actually have meaningful, close friendships with other women, although this is the ideal that everyone is expected to strive for.

Also assuming some people have been called out for some of these specific behaviors before, especially gossip but likely also the pushy advice giving, and even if they don't actually fit this archetype, are responding defensively to that. I have known many women who gossip or who overreach on advice giving, without being these sort of Type A social manipulators. They are not good qualities but also everyone has flaws and hopefully most people who do this stuff realize it's hurtful or obnoxious and stop as they get older. I feel like these behaviors peaked in my social circle maybe mid 30s, and now in my 40s people are too tired and focused on their own challenges to engage in them

But yeah, if you are reading this description and just getting very incensed by it, it's probably not because there's nothing in it that describes you. The post is triggering these very aggressive responses because there is quite a bit of truth in it, even if for most people the truths are only partial and most people are not this full package.[/quote]

Options

	Disable HTML in this message
	Disable BB Code in this message
	Disable smilies in this message

Review message

Search Recent Topics Hottest Topics