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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]YOU NEED TO LEAVE THE AREA. No other options OP. [/quote]

I appreciate the bluntness. But where?

I'm genuinely asking. I do sometimes think I just am ill suited to the DC area because this annoys me so much and it feels like a very common personality type here. I can't just pick up and leave as I have a job and kids and a spouse. But I am open to thinking about it. Some people say there are people like this everywhere. Is that true? I am not from this area and did not encounter people like this prior to moving here for work.[/quote]

Basically anywhere with money will have this. It's the spoiled rich alpha female archetype. In working class areas these "forces of nature" are mama bears who are easier to deflect because they always have personal problems.[/quote]

But not everyone like this is rich. They just have leverage. Even in a wealthy community, you don't necessarily need wealth to be like this. I think of the way some of the rich ladies at my barre studio will clamor over certain instructors, and how some of those instructors use that popularity to get stuff they want out of those ladies. Maybe the instructor is very charismatic and good at her job, or maybe it's a hot guy who knows these women love getting attention and compliments from him.

All you need is leverage. Of course, that's if your goal is to manipulate and dominate people. Plenty of people don't think in these terms and might even have leverage they never use in this way. It's a certain personality type who is maybe high on the narcissism scale, low on the empathy scale, and enjoys the high they get in making people do what they want.[/quote]

[b]Someone can’t make you do what they want, when it’s BS like this and no gun involved.[/b]

Yall need to grow up.

And if you have some great idea and plan for a fundraiser or school thing or Pilates class, then speak up. [/quote]

Of course they can. That's what leverage is -- a way to get someone to do what you want.

People in positions of power/authority do it all the time. [b]How do parents get their kids to clean their rooms? How does my boss get me to submit time reports?[/b] And so on. And sometimes people use social pressure, or the threat of negative social consequences, to get people to do things. That may or be more or less effective depending on who they are and what the consequences might be, but I bet you have done things you didn't want to do because of social pressure. Most people have.[/quote]

You are easily manipulated because you lack critical thinking skills. To compare a PTA dispute to a job where you get reviewed and paid for your performance is laughable. And to compare a parent child relationship to two adults working together on some unimportant PYA project is pathetic. Are you an adult? [/quote]

Same question.

Lots of misguided conflating of basic concepts and relationships by OP troll. [/quote]

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