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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Talk to him about it and offer to change parenting days when he travels. If its not ok his mom care for the kids, why is it ok yours care when she's not doing well herself and cannot actually care for the kids.  You both need a real and realistic back up plan.[/quote]

Mine doesn’t even live with us and wouldn’t care for DC. DC is 8. I’m just imagining a future when DC is 13 and my mom has moved in and DC can’t stay home “alone” like a normal 13 year old for a few hours because they would be technically in the house with my mom so DH could trigger ROFR.[/quote]

If DH did this, they would annoy their teen child and it would not go well for dad.

Just wait until you are co-parenting a teen with strong opinions…They will not be young child easily passed back and forth. They will have resentments.

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Or maybe they will resent you taking dad away.  [/quote]

Taking the dad away...or the dad walking away?[/quote]

If you refuse contact you are taking the kids dad away.  You will not all him in their life.  Take responsibility.  [/quote]

No one’s refusing contact. The dad is the one who stepped out and is having family members fill in for him rather than be in his kids’ life. [/quote]

Dad like mom works to pay for his families needs.   Should both parents quit so they can be there all day and night. [/quote]

No but at some point there’s a choice- earn another million that year or get more time with your kids? This obviously isn’t a thread about a dad working overtime at manual labor job to put food on the table. It’s a dad with a highly compensated career who has the option to not take a travel role and didn’t. This kid has maybe 8-10 years left of their childhood and the dad is so blinded by the external validation of his career that he’s going to miss what’s left of that childhood in the name of piling up more and more money.

At some point there is a trade off between financial and emotional security, but dads like this don’t understand that and think that their earning power should create love and devotion from their children.[/quote]

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