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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Yes you can have a kid on your own but depriving that kid of a mom or a dad is a selfish decision. [/quote]
Something like 25% of kids are being raised without a father. I hope you admonish every dead beat loser who puts a check in the mail instead of being a father. [/quote]

I hope you admonish every evil loser who denies her ex husband access to his kids just to spite him.[/quote]
Right right. If you were actually a good dad you wouldn’t be “denied access”. Time to face the music, youre the deadbeat we’re talking about NOT settling for.[/quote]

Women 100% deny access to good dads just to spite them. [/quote]

Ha.

My parents were married until my mother’s death. I have an amazing dad.

And no force on earth would have “denied him access” to his kids if they had been divorced with joint custody. He would have been standing at the door the moment his custody time started.

Whenever I hear about a woman “denying access” on this site, the details of the story are “man doesn’t want to follow court ordered agreement for time and money”[/quote]

Bingo. Every man I’ve dated who claimed his xW denied access actually didn’t want his kids.

It’s been shocking how many men I’ve gone on a first date with, they start complaining how their ex wife blocks them from seeing their kids, and it comes out that they actually moved out of state, away from their kids! One guy was even angry his ex wife wouldn’t put their son on a plane every other weekend to go see him! I’m like sir, move back to your child or get your own butt on a plane twice a month to see him.

Or how many lose custody just from not even bothering. I knew one guy who said he was denied custody. I asked why. He said he had no idea. I asked if he hired an attorney, went to court, etc. He said no, he didn’t know you needed to do that. Basically his ex showed up to court, he didn’t, the judge granted her full custody. How do you not know you need to do these things? So many divorced men seem to think their ex wives should just “be cool” and skip over all the paperwork and legal processes. [/quote]

No, wrong.

Wife denies access to kids, and eventually the guy gives up and moves on with his life.

It is absolutely false that "no force on earth would have “denied him access” to his kids if they had been divorced with joint custody." You can have theoretical 50/50 access and still be denied custody. You can "bother" all you want but in reality the courts do not enforce custody agreements. She ignores the custody agreement... you take her to court... the judge issues a court order that she ignores... and meanwhile she is eagerly turning the kids against you so she can make the case that "actually the kids want to stay with me not him". This can drag on for years.[/quote]

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