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It's awful and guess what?  For some of us that never goes away.  Ever.  It makes sex far less pleasant than it was before, frankly.  I know the HD people on here will basically be of the position that you should suck it up because it's "your duty" or whatever, but yeah, if you bothered to ask you'd know this shit.[/quote]

So what do you expect the HD spouse to do?  Accept celibacy or near-celibacy?  [/quote]

No, I expect them to understand that my drive is not what it was and that it is probably not going all the way back there.  And that when I have sex I do not enjoy it as much as I did before.  If you can't do that, then just be honest and divorce me so you can go find someone to [b]act like a rabbit[/b] with.[/quote]

Translation: "deal with it, you animal."

It's one thing to have a unfixably low desire. But it's another to regard your spouse's libido dismissively. The first one may be largely out of your control. The second is a choice. And if you're dismissive about the importance of sex to the marriage (assuming you don't have an asexual spouse), you're never going to have a happy marriage. Even if you are unable to have sex with your spouse, you can at least show your spouse that you understand that it's a Big Deal.[/quote]

[b]I HAVE shown my spouse that I understood. [/b] What I didn't get for the longest time was any understanding of MY position.[/quote]

You use the term "withholding" repeatedly in this thread, which indicates that you do not understand.  Not at all.[/quote]

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