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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]As a husband, if you do these things, your wife will remain interested:

1. Do at least half of all child-related driving and watching, leaving your wife time for herself.
2. Do the dishes.
3. Make the beds.
4. Hire a cleaner.
5. Make plenty of money.
6. Help with meals. 
7. Foreplay.

It's that easy. 
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I’m a woman, and I think it’s actually even easier than this.  You don’t even have to do the dishes, meals, and childcare if you acknowledge that she’s doing it, and you think she’s amazing for it.  And you don’t have to make a lot of money either.  
Think about it, women go to visit men on conjugal visits in prison.  Those guys aren’t doing anything on this list.

Here is the real list:

1). Tell her how great she is, with specifics.  If she’s a kick-ass lawyer, say that.  If she’s an amazing mother, say that.  If she keeps your ADHD self organized and you would be lost without her, say that.  If she’s fat, but you love her giant G-cups, say that.

2). [b]Initiate sex a lot.  [/b]

3). [b]Don’t get upset or hurt when she turns you down.  Accept it and move on with your day.  Initiate again the next day.[/b]

4).  Don’t get hurt if she asks you to do something different in bed.  It’s not meant as a blow to your ego.  Just do it.

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This is very rapey and at what point does the woman actually initiate? It would suck to have to initiate all the time. It just shows the other party has no desire for you. [/quote]

If you don’t get upset or manipulative when she turns you down, then you can assume that every time she has sex with you, she has desire for you.  
Why else would she?

And if you are getting upset and pouty if she turns you down or doesn’t initiate, then you can assume that a good part of the reason she is initiating is because she wants a pleasant life, not because of any desire for you.  
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lol no. It is just “duty sex”. If she does not initiate she has no desire for you. Could you imagine being in a relationship like that for 5, 10 or 20 years. Yipes! 
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I guess I’m the opposite of your wife.  It turns me on when my husband assertively initiates and tells me what to do.  
If I’m initiating, it’s usually out of a sense that it’s been too long since we have had sex, and that it isn’t good for our marriage or our family as a whole, so I initiate.

For me, it’s much closer to “duty sex” when I initiate than when DH initiates.  [/quote]

Why would you ever initiate sex? How would you feel if your DH said the same thing to you?[/quote]

I initiate sex because it’s been too long, and I feel like our relationship is better, our household is happier, and it’s ultimately better for our children to be raised in a household where their parents are happy and sexually active with each other.  
I want them to think that it’s normal for married people to have sex and to pursue relationships where that happens.

If my husband told me that he sometimes initiates for that reason, that would be okay with me.  Why wouldn’t it be?  
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You are one of the few rational women on this board. [/quote]

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