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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP, a few years ago, my daughter was the only girl in a class of 12 girls not invited to a classmate's birthday party. My daughter's 2 best friends were invited to the party and I was friendly with the mom, so I saw all her posts bout it on social media and my daughter her about it from her friends. She was bummed that she was invited, but we had a talk about how they weren't really close friends, she's not always going to be invited to everything, it's totally fine. Other moms texted me to be like "that mom is just awful to let her child exclude just one girl" and I said the same thing to them "it's fine, they're not close, I'm happy she has good friends in your daughters" and just let it go.  Which is what you should do. Life goes on. Friends change. Deal with it.[/quote]

I think you are doing your DD a great service by being calm about it. Good for you [/quote]

I had a party last year and didn’t invite a girl not knowing she was a girl. I went by the class list and her name sounded like a boy’s. I didn’t mean to exclude her.

Another year, I had my son incite all the boys in his class even the ones he doesn’t talk to at all. One boy’s mom never opened the Evite and I didn’t follow up. I was at school the day after the party and saw the boy and said we missed him at the party. His eyes lit up realizing he was invited. I will never forget that.

My daughter wasn’t invite to two parties of girls in her class. Other friends assumed she would have been invited. One girl was mean about it. Other girl she just doesn’t know. I told her that she is not close friends with both girls and we never even had a play date with either. I know she felt bad but she moved on.[/quote]

I don't know why you're trying to make excuses for excluding people but my daughter was the only girl in her class NOT invited to the party. It wasn't a mistake, oversight, or missed invitation. She flat out wasn't invited.

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I didn’t exclude anyone. The name of the girl sounded like a boy’s name. Think a name like James or Carter. I invited all the girls in the class except the girl with a boy’s name.

There was another year where my daughter did not want to invite one girl who was not kind to her. I still invited her. Fortunately the girl was unavailable and didn’t come to the party.

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I just can't imagine not going through the list with my child. Even in preschool, when we had an all girls party, I did this. [/quote]

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