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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]There are lots of men who stay with their wives and care for them when they get a chronic illness.  Many of them have to give up sex with their wives as a result of the illness, not because the wife doesn't want to have sex.  Obviously she is also giving up sex, probably for the rest of her life in many cases.  Many men in this situation [b]rightly prioritize themselves[/b] and their wants and desires and even needs below those of the chronically ill wife.  It's also true that the majority of such men have little to no help at all in caring for their wives.  Some men resist accepting help and others don't have anyone to help them.  They are accepting a heavy responsibility and burden.

If you are in this situation, whether you are a man or a woman, there is a great podcast designed to help and support you, it's called In Sickness and is available on most podcast platforms.  It's two people who are in this situation, are in their 40s, and who want to help others.  It's not uncommon for this to happen to older people but for it to happen to younger couples is quite the unexpected tragedy.

As far as sex goes, it's clearly a tough decision to stay out of love and commitment and care for a chronically ill spouse and accept that your own sexual desires will likely not be satisfied.  Different people handle that situation differently depending on their morals and beliefs and probably how much they love the ill person.  Some may step out of the marriage, some others resolve to satisfy themselves.  Whether you think stepping out is cheating can be a debatable topic when the lack of sex has nothing to do with whether either partner wants it or not.  It's very much and individual dilemma and decision.  It's tough on both partners and often mental and emotional health take a big hit in the process.[/quote]

Nope. Haven't had sex in 2 years. My DW can't due to health issues. Its not the end of the world. I have no desire to look for it elsewhere. Some of you on this forum are so selfish it's insane. Sex is not everything in a relationship for God sake. [/quote]

If you read again you'll see that I said they prioritize their own wants and needs BELOW that of the chronically ill wife which is exactly what you are also saying.[/quote]

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