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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Congratulations on possibly destroying children’s lives with a bitter divorce that might not have otherwise happened if you didn’t feel the need to insert yourself into other’s lives.

This is worse than cheating. You are directly possibly causing trauma for kids that may not have happened otherwise. Marriage is about much more than sex.

People should mind their own business.

-never cheated [/quote]

This is not worse than cheating.  The cheating spouses caused the problems.  If OP needed to unburden, then good for OP.

If you don't want people to find out about your bad acts, don't do them![/quote]

No! Sex is a private act between consenting adults married or not. Intentionally causing a divorce that might never happen if you did not open your mouth is worse. Intentionally involving kids. I have never cheated. When I was married, I would not have wanted to know. Marriage is much bigger than just sex. The problem is people like you think sex is the most important thing. No, kids' stability and finances are. Don't cheat but also don't get involved in other people's marriages that potentially makes you the impetus to harm kids. Research says most affairs are never discovered. [/quote]
I feel the same. If DH steps out but has no intention of leaving, will end it eventually, and is still being decent to me and the kids, I do not want to know. I know that I would not be able to stay and I think that would kill my kids. It would also ruin me financially. I respect people who would want to know, but there are a lot of us who wouldn't. [/quote]

This is so pathetic I don't even know what to say.[/quote]

Many families have don't ask, don't tell policy.  I would not want to know. OP just wants to be an active participant of the drama, that's pretty  pathetic. [/quote]
Then delete the email. Problem solved. [/quote]

Not wanting to know does not mean turning away, when someone deliberately shoves it in your face. 
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OP here. The other betrayed spouse thanked me for telling them. They told me they were grateful for the information because they had noticed their spouse had been acting differently but denied and deflected. They told me they felt relieved that they now knew the truth.

I'm glad I told them. I hated keeping such an awful secret from another innocent person. They deserved to know what was happening in their marriage so they could make informed choices for themselves, their health, their marriage, etc.[/quote]

still, all about you. Here’s your cape. You’re my hero.[/quote]

Actually, they use the word they more than they use the word I.

I’m sorry that you can’t be a good person. I’m sorry about whatever happened to you in your childhood that brought you to this point in the world.

None of us need capes to be a normal, caring and compassionate human.[/quote]

This is so f'd up. Counting the use of "I" vs "They" is your justification for insulting op? Crazy. Come clean. Were you the one who blew up your marriage? It's clear that it hurt you financially and messed up your fairytale life. Deal with that instead of attacking op. [/quote]

I wonder what happened to her? Addiction? Childhood abuse?

It’s wild to see someone so delusional.[/quote]

Honestly, what happened to you that you feel
The need to be so hyperbolic about anyone that has a differing opinion than you? The only person attacking anyone is you. No one has personally attacked the OP in the manner you’re attacking anyone that doesn’t agree with her tactic. You okay? [/quote]

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