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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I don’t get why it’s so bad to help with the laundry. It’s not like you don’t know that he’s going to leave the clean laundry in a pile. You “watched” the laundry pile up all day without offering to help?  WTF?  It appears to be some sort of bean counting, and that’s never good for a marriage. Ask yourself “how important is it to ask your spouse to do a task they hate and cause tension in your marriage over it?”  It’s laundry. This isn’t important. Just work as a team. Or you could nag and be miserable, but that doesn’t seem to be working for you.  [/quote]

Serious question (and I’m not OP)
What do I do when we’ve already had this conversation?  Multiple times?  And he’s good about it for about a month, then slips back to previous behavior? And we’ve been married for close to 20 years?  Am I the one who’s just supposed to suck it up ONE HUNDRED PERCENT of the time?  How does resentment not build?[/quote]

Can anything be hired out - send out laundry, etc.? That, plus accept reality or leave are really your only options. Talking has not produced sustained change, so that is unlikely to be successful. If there are other pluses, like financial security, I'd go with adjusting expectations. If on balance, there are not, get out and enjoy your peace, esp once kids leave home. I'm not sure that the expectation of 50/50 when both work FT out of the home has really worked for our generation, there are only so many hours in the day and you are not alone in feeling resentful, OP. [/quote]

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