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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I know marriage is long and complex but I read descriptions like the one above and my heart sinks. PP moved for a decade for her husband's career in the military, they have three(!) young kids she primarily parents, he's gone 50% of the time already, and wants her to move (again), when she finally has a job she likes?

Some marriages are just not partnerships, and this feels like one of them. PP asking if she's selfish indicates how long she's been boiling in the water. So sorry for you PP. And I would not move.[/quote]

I am the poster you are responding to. I have tears right now, reading your message. We once went to couples therapy, where I was basically berated by the therapist that he is willing to live in many different states but I am not willing to move. I am scarred from that therapy experience and it’s made me feel so much guilt and question my selfishness every day. [/quote]

NP. You are not selfish. And couples/marital therapy is not about the therapist taking sides. I am sorry you had that experience. Stick to your guns. You have frankly earned the right to be in one place and have a great job.[/quote]

I am honestly so sorry that you had that therapy experience. That sounds incredibly strange. To me, you are compromising more than I would be comfortable by being a solo parent 50 percent of the time. I think asking for more is just selfish. I am also in STEM and having worked my butt off to stay in my field but have the flexibility to be the primary parent as well and I just want to say I SEE YOU and I know how hard that is. I would go to individual therapy to help you deal with what you’ve already had to do and to have the support you need to do what is best for your kids, which is be primarily parented by someone who is mentally ok and has a support network. Good luck [/quote]

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