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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Find it here: https://zawn.substack.com/p/the-dad-privilege-checklist

Please read the checklist and return for a conversation about it. I want to hear from others about their own experiences with coparenting their children with the children's dad.

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Women who approach coparenting like this list  (keeping score) will 💯 be unhappy and resentful. Not because they do more than their husband but because they are keeping score of every darn thing. Essentially, looking to create drama. [/quote]

Yes, women should just stfu and do all the work. [/quote]Instead of counting who does what, how would it look if you counted who has more downtime. Doing entertainment and self care stuff, like scrolling, gym, tv, bathroom alone, etc.

I'm suspecting many on this thread are just underestimating how long the things dh does should take. And not noticing important tasks. It's kind of human nature to remember our own work more and not notice others' work.[/quote]

given that time-use studies consistently show women have less leisure time, I feel pretty confident that those of us saying we have less leisure time can be trusted. [/quote]No one can be trusted to be objective when house chores are involved. Someone upthread is actually complaining that sometimes dh needs to finish a work report on the weekend. Hardly leisure time.

Meawhile dad checklist has the below contradictory bullets. If you don't take care of the cars, I strongly suspect you don't know how long it would take you to do it yourself. I've registered my kids. Filling out vaccination forms isn't that hard, and very rare.

I know that someone else will register my children for school.

I get to pretend that rare tasks, like changing the oil, take up as much time as the hundreds of tasks outlined above.[/quote]

These are not contradictory unless the person registering the kids for school is claiming they do as much as the parent who does hundreds of other tasks.

Btw, I register the kids for school AND get the oil changed on the car. For my DH, it's changing the batteries in the smoke alarms that he thinks is equal to the many daily tasks I do while he sits around looking at his phone.[/quote]

I mean yes, the point of listing things like school registration is because often the mom is the one doing it year after year in addition to all of the other annual/periodic tasks she also exclusively does. So yeah, this month my DH may take the car to be cleaned. Meanwhile I’m doing school registration, setting up summer tutoring, submitting insurance claime reimbursements, coordinating the IEP, arranging social events, planning DS’s birthday party … oh and also doing 100% of the cooking, cleaning and household laundry. [/quote]

I wonder what your husbands are doing that you don’t see while you’re sitting around complaining about them on DCUM…[/quote]

Lets see. He has been asleep/hiding all morning while I took DS to breakfast, picked up birthday gifts, organized a social event for later today, and picked up some groceries. In an hour DS and I will go out again to buy summer clothes, replace a broken appliance, and see a friend. Then I will oversee homework and make dinner.

Yea in between that I post on DCUM which is probably a terrible hobby but honestly I’m so exhausted that it becomes the easiest way to take a break. [/quote]

OMG you are SUCH an insufferable martyr!  No wonder he is hiding from you.  Your poor kid.[/quote]

Triggered, huh? Not sure what of what I listed there is being a “martyr” but I’m curious to hear it. I could also completely ignore my kid but I can’t really bring myself to do that. [/quote]

For starters, listing going out to eat, planning a social event, and visiting a friend as if those completely OPTIONAL activities are SUCH difficult and important “work”… I can’t even spare an eye roll for this type of BS, lady.[/quote]

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