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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I only have girls (14, 16) and I purchase condoms and leave them in the bathroom under the counter. They should always have 2 on them. Give them to friends too. It shouldn’t be just the guy’s responsibility. They also carry Narcan. [b]Does that mean I am ok with them being around drugs?[/b][/quote]

I mean, yes, it does. What do you think it means?[/quote]

You're crazy. I've shown my goody-two-shoes kids how to administer Narcan if they should ever be in that position as well as telling them how to do CPR and use a defibrillator. It's that kind of world now.
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Do you have nicotine patches in case they get hooked on cigarettes or tobacco vapes and need them?

Do you have suboxone just in case they become addicted to opioids?

If yes, then your logic with condoms and Narcan is consistent.

If not, ask yourself why you’re stocking condoms and Narcan, even though you insist you’re not encouraging adolescent sex and drug use, just in case but not those other items, just in case.[/quote]

You don't get the situation out there. I don't have too much experience with the condom issue but it is irresponsible for you to pontify about Narcan. Sounds like you are one of those 60 year olds who like to post on this forum or a mom of a little kid, you seem so out of touch. 
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Try again. I have a 16 year old son. My stance on sex and drugs is clear. We’ve had a lot of conversations with him about why we hold those stances and our expectations of him.

[b]If he chooses to disobey and deviate from that despite that understanding, then that is his choice and the consequences are on him. But he can’t say he made those choices because he thought it was ok with us.[/b]

By supplying your kids with a steady supply of condoms and Narcan, you ARE normalizing that behavior, whether you want to acknowledge that or not.[/quote]

[b]If the child is mature enough to make his own choices (like having sex or using drugs), then he is also mature enough to accept the responsibility for those choices.[/b]

It would be irresponsible not to talk with your kids about sex, drugs, alcohol, etc. but that does not mean that supplying them with the implements (and tacit approval) to engage in these activities is responsible.[/quote]

So if your kid decides to have sex and gets pregnant, she’s on her own?  Or if she takes drugs and no one has narcan and she dies - you’re just gonna say “oh well!  She chose to do drugs - thems the breaks!” and move on with your day?[/quote]

If your kid has sex and gets pregnant, she's not on her own per se but now there's a consequence: To keep the baby or have an abortion. There will be hefty psychological and emotional consequences with either decision. You can't save her from that, mom.

If she takes drugs and dies, that is NOT your fault. You as the parent do not bear responsibility for your child's poor choice. Would you tell a parent whose child died by suicide that their child's decision to take their own life was their fault? Of course not. A drug overdose is no different.[/quote]

Exactly.  And I wonder why the PP (before you) made the bizarre insinuation that a parent who chooses not to supply their kid with Narcan wouldn’t CARE if the kid overdosed?  It simply does not follow.

Is this what modern helicoptering looks like for teens?  My role as a parent is to teach my kids how to make good choices.  That doesn’t always guarantee that they WILL make good choices, but that freedom is part of becoming an adult.

If I have taught my older teen, to the best of my ability, that they should only have sex within a committed relationship and should procure and use protection to prevent pregnancy and STD’s, and they choose to disregard that advice, then they need to also be prepared to accept the consequences.

Similarly, if I have taught my child that actually you really should just say no to drugs, because there is a lot of risk for very little if any benefit, and they choose to do drugs anyway… I would be devastated, but ultimately that is the choice they made.

I think the toughest part of parenting is truly accepting that your kids are individuals and they are going to live their own lives and make their own choices.  I think supplying them with condoms and Narcan is actually some sort of refusal to relinquish control and let them grow up.  (I am not articulating this well, I realize.)[/quote]

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