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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I only have girls (14, 16) and I purchase condoms and leave them in the bathroom under the counter. They should always have 2 on them. Give them to friends too. It shouldn’t be just the guy’s responsibility. They also carry Narcan. [b]Does that mean I am ok with them being around drugs?[/b][/quote]

I mean, yes, it does. What do you think it means?[/quote]

You're crazy. I've shown my goody-two-shoes kids how to administer Narcan if they should ever be in that position as well as telling them how to do CPR and use a defibrillator. It's that kind of world now.
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Do you have nicotine patches in case they get hooked on cigarettes or tobacco vapes and need them?

Do you have suboxone just in case they become addicted to opioids?

If yes, then your logic with condoms and Narcan is consistent.

If not, ask yourself why you’re stocking condoms and Narcan, even though you insist you’re not encouraging adolescent sex and drug use, just in case but not those other items, just in case.[/quote]

You don't get the situation out there. I don't have too much experience with the condom issue but it is irresponsible for you to pontify about Narcan. Sounds like you are one of those 60 year olds who like to post on this forum or a mom of a little kid, you seem so out of touch. 
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Try again. I have a 16 year old son. My stance on sex and drugs is clear. We’ve had a lot of conversations with him about why we hold those stances and our expectations of him.

[b]If he chooses to disobey and deviate from that despite that understanding, then that is his choice and the consequences are on him. But he can’t say he made those choices because he thought it was ok with us.[/b]

By supplying your kids with a steady supply of condoms and Narcan, you ARE normalizing that behavior, whether you want to acknowledge that or not.[/quote]

If the child is mature enough to make his own choices (like having sex or using drugs), then he is also mature enough to accept the responsibility for those choices.

[b]It would be irresponsible not to talk with your kids about sex, drugs, alcohol, etc. but that does not mean that supplying them with the implements (and tacit approval) to engage in these activities is responsible.[/b][/quote]

PP you're quoting and that is 100% how we roll! We TALK, openly, about sex, drugs, alcohol, crime, etc.

Am I 100% sure he won't dabble in those things DESPITE our conversations? Of course not. Does that mean it's my obligation to supply condoms, Narcan, Goody's Hangover, etc. "just in case" and still argue till I'm blue in the face that my providing those things is not encouraging that behavior? No.

My parents didn't know anything my sex life when I was teen and I don't need the nitty gritty details of my son's. We have honest conversations about the risks, the consequences and what it means to take those risks. If I were to find out that he was using drugs, I would be INCREDIBLY UPSET and DISAPPOINTED. Because I know he knows better. That's how parents SHOULD be: Boundary establishers, not enablers.[/quote]

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