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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I’m a MIL and I would never in a million years when my DIL is pregnant show no concern for her while only showing concern for my son.

If anything when my DIL was pregnant I always made sure that my son was treating her right and taking care of her like she deserves as the person going through the brunt of it.

I care about my DIL as a person and when my son got married I saw her as my family as well.

It’s shitty that so many of you on here choose to take a cold stance towards your DIL.

As a MIL I believe that your relationship with your adult son needs to shift to allow his wife to be the #1 woman in his life and you need to step back a little to make that transition happen.

[b]If he has problems or issues then he should be turning to his wife not “checking up” on him as if that’s not the wife’s role. It just seems like you would be trying to upsurp his wife’s role in his life.[/b]

You had 18-20 something years to be the #1 woman and spend alone time and all those good things allow room for his wife now.[/quote]

No.  When you get married, you don’t suddenly lose the right to have your parent check up on you and your wellbeing.  It doesn’t all have to go through the spouse. And I say that as a daughter in law not MIL.  Do you seriously think only my husband gets to ask about my wellbeing and my dad doesn’t get to ask how I’m doing, simply because I got married??  Get real.[/quote]

What I meant by that was don’t you think your son’s wife will make sure he is ok if there is an issue. Once married they become the most important person. They made vows to each other.

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She should check on him but that doesn’t mean her husband’s friends and family can’t ask too, and it’s very controlling to say otherwise.  [/quote]

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