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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I do not see anything really wrong with saying you would have seriously considered or think that you would have gone with in-bound DCPS had you not gotten a lottery spot and decided to attend a Latin or Basis.  It is certainly more true for some people than others.  But kids really want to keep their close elementary school friends after they scatter.  And a lot of people really do have a 4th grade plan that is basically try DCPS if not charter.  Sure maybe they would have changed that plan without lottery luck.  But who cares.  Although DCUM refuses to believe it, I think some people also increasingly have a plan that is just try DCPS.[/quote]

I believe this for elementary and MS. Not for HS. When someone claims they would have been happy with Eastern, after getting their kids into Walls, I simply do not believe them.

But I also find it condescending when parents who got lottery spots at charters say this because it just comes off as condescending to those of us who didn't get those spots. Just admit that we all tried to lottery into charters, you got in and we didn't. It is tiresome when a family who is IB for the school you attend, but who sends their kids elsewhere, is like "oh it's a great school, we definitely would have been completely happy there if be hadn't gotten into our charter." Oh really? Then why did you lottery for and then send your kids to a charter? Why do you commute further to attend that charter when the IB is just up the street? It really doesn't sound like you think you'd be equally happy at your IB so maybe don't say that. [/quote]

What would you rather have them say? "Man, your kid is screwed!"? Say nothing and imply it? I understand that this is tough; it was for all that came before. You'd be right here on DCUM complaining about people rubbing it in if they were honest about escaping. Almost everyone I know who matched at Latin, SWW, etc. has some form of survivor's guilt.[/quote]

Say nothing. That's what you say: nothing. You state where your kid goes if asked. You do not pretend that you would have been thrilled to attend the IB school you rejected in favor of that charter, nor do you comment that you're so glad you were not forced to do so. You do not comment on the quality of the IB school, which you only know by reputation anyway. You are welcome to speak to your experience at your charter. But you don't walk around pontificating about the quality (or lack their of) of education at a school you chose not to have your kids attend, especially not to people whose kids DO attend that school.

Don't put your own guilt or discomfort about attending a charter onto other people. Figure it out yourself. Just be quiet and don't speak on subjects with which you do not have direct experience (doing the lottery is NOT a direct experience with a school).[/quote]

You don't have any direct experience with winning the lottery, so why are you projecting your own guilt or discomfort on those who did and trying to control what they should say?[/quote]

The PP said that parents who win the lottery have survivor's guilt. I was speaking to that.

People can say whatever they want, I'm just expressing my opinion on the things people say. The PP was arguing that the only alternative to lying about wanting to go to your IB is to gloat and say "you're kids are screwed." I'm suggesting there is an alternative option, often ignored by people: be quiet.[/quote]

I don't have any survivor's guilt over winning the lottery. What should I be guilty about? It's a lottery -- it was never a sure thing, so I had a plan if I didn't win. Most people do. If I never wanted to play, I wouldn't be living in DC in the first place.[/quote]

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