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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]My Boomer dad was fine, but I had a terrible relationship with my Boomer mom growing up. She had a lot of anger issues and blamed me for things that were not my fault. She also criticized my weight frequently.

However, she became very different after I grew up. I strongly suspect it coincides with starting SSRIs. She is incredibly sweet now, and incredibly helpful and hands-on with my children. We are very close (geographically and emotionally) and see each other several times a week. Ironically I am closer to her now than my dad, which I would have thought impossible 20 years ago.[/quote]

There are some comments on this thread about boomer parents - both male and female - who, according to the person writing the comments, had anger issues, had explosive personalities, were authoritarian, etc.

Why??? Why were these people so angry? Were they always angry and difficult people, or did they change at some point in their lives?[/quote]

I'm one of the PPs whose parents had anger issues. I'm sure if you ask them, it's because their upbringing was terrible. And it was, I don't discount that. They parented how they were parented. Yelling, threatening, hitting, etc. was what they knew and they made no effort to look inward and realize how much it harmed them and then did the exact same thing to us. Boomers don't like Millennials (and I'm borderline Gen X, so maybe Gen X too), because they are stopping the cycle of crappy parenting. It's making them realize maybe they weren't such great parents after all.

Both of my parents majorly criticize my parenting and it's infuriating because they weren't model parents. It was very authoritarian and any version of parenting that isn't like that is viewed as permissive, lazy parenting. I'm not a lazy or permissive parent at all... I just treat my child as a human who is imperfect, has bad days, has emotions, etc. I'm making the effort to fully understand my DD. I had massive anxiety as a child, told my parents this for years and all I heard was "it's mind over matter" and to suck it up. Now I'm an adult still with tons of anxiety, but now I have to learn how to navigate through this as an adult because I never learned those coping skills as a child. My DD is very similar to how I was as a kid, anxiety and all. I'm trying to do better for her. Hopefully my kid doesn't hate me in 20-30 years, but I'm working now for that adult relationship with her. Fingers crossed.[/quote]

They aren’t therapists so they couldn’t give you coping skills. You can now go and get therapy and meds for yourself. 
Parents aren’t responsible fixing  mental health issues of their children unless it’s really bad. I think yours wasn’t because you are a fine person now. [/quote]

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